Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Luv Tings A Gwan


By now, you’ll already know my feelings on holidays and commemoration days alike. You’ll already know that I feel like Birthdays are actually Mother’s Days and Workers’ Days are in fact Freedom Days and New Years are, well…old.

Yet for the Thinker, it can’t be helped but to use these days as an excuse to reflect. So I reflect on Love.

I reflect on how we don’t have a consensus on its definition save the old ‘it’s so real’ rhetoric and the Oxfords. Yet we all think we know enough about it to prophesy. Today my definition of Love is limited to the context of Romance; Sexuality.

For time, I have been told what I should expect in Love. From an early age, most times without warning, regard or consent, I was taught about ‘Forever After’ and ‘The Eve to my Adam’ and who could ever forget the popular Elevator Sign-Lingo ‘You Complete Me’. In time I have had to systemically purge many of these teachings from my achy-breaky and redefine some core fundamentals that govern my new (though still evolving) view of Love.

Don’t get it contwist, {confused or twisted}, I am a believer in Real Love. Just not the kind on sale right now off the impromptu stand at the butchers…

Thanks to my firsts; First Kiss, First Heartbreak, First Love and First True Love, all in that order; I am able to remodel my view of Love. It is in reflecting on these firsts that I become that much more convinced of the following;

A fine line exists between Obsession, Addiction and Real Love. Knowing which one of the three you’re experiencing at any given point is being able to answer honestly, “Would I be a better version of me without this?” A degree of rehabilitation might be required to see you safely into the kind of territory you need to be to answer this question, cos invariably the acts of a Romeo or a Juliet are indistinguishable to those of a raving lunatic who fiends that crack!

An inexplicable link exists between Love, Sex and The Ego. This is especially true for us dudes. Trying to figure it out is pointless, but being able to recognize how real the link is and its impact on our actions in Love is paramount. This is the part where Real Love takes over and you sit shotgun and watch as your heart races the tracks of emotion. It can be quite an exhilarating ride.

Most of us spend lifetimes chasing love; that is searching and finding it. Few of us spend nearly as much time nurturing love. Real Love is nurtured. There really is no other way to attaining it. It’s not had at first sight, or earned over time…it is nurtured. This nurturing is a choice thing.

Easy now, I’m not saying you choose who you love. Don’t get it contwist. I’m saying you choose which love to nurture and when… even to the point of it becoming Real.

I’m fascinated at the surrender love demands. Because it is such a choice thing, only you can decide to give yourself off to love. I’m reminded of The Perfect Gift from God; Free Will. This is the expression of Real Love; in its surrender. Funny how most of us want someone to love or love us, but few of us allow ourselves to love. The older you get and the more clued up you become in the ways of love, the scarier the prospect of surrender seems.

Finally, the organic nature of loving opens us up to the prospect of Unconditional Love; one even more scary than surrender. The sheer magnitude of an unconditional love, one with no quid pro quo, no expectations or demands is unfathomable for most of us raised on ‘Forever’ and ‘Complete Me’. Our love is contractual in its terms yet comes with a voetstoots clause. Real Love can actually be that sometimes; real. This means everything you learn, every rule you have, every sure thing in you, means nothing! In the face of Unconditional Love No Rules apply…

But what do I know. I’m just a rapper dude trying to decide whether to do the Anti-Valentines Throw Down or the Cupid’s Arrow Bow n Tie event! Still, it’s worth thinking about, no?

Live Now






1 comment:

Brian said...

Son... for some reasons this take me back to convo's we had endless times before. before I dissect this let me say this ....... err what's the point you know it already. So Dunn here is the deal :
-first of as of love you would need to be out of your mind to experience it, for what ever we've bee told and taught about it is not what it is. meaning all our notions that we have capsulated on our way to growing up is totally warped, which why you find the tragic 3 ( Obsession, Addiction and psychotic) which every one learns from the so called TV I.e Idiot box. In true essence Love is pretty simple look at your life!! you made this far you are this old. HOW? you may ask "silly question if you ask me!!". Well think of you before miss so and so was in your life you lived didn't ya? HUH!!! with just self love and ambition to get your self to what you considered a better place of self. something no one told or taught you how to do. EASY WORK OUT!! now share that part of you with some one else and loose the selfish bit and HEY what do you know??? it's there

secondly: watching Santa Barbra, Days of our lives, Generations, etc (Sopies). you ought to remember those are propaganda shows, they have to sell something to you in order for them to stay on the idiot box for as long as they are. therefore they will depict what business want you to buy on particular day I.e Valentines day, Christmas (who ever said that Jesus was born on December 25th) etc. If you showing love includes buying gifts on those days and making an issue of them, then sure you have ..........

thirdly : "An inexplicable link exists between Love, Sex and The Ego. This is especially true for us dudes." Son who forced you to write this statement? cause I know you did not come up with this on your own! then again you looking @ this from a guy's perspective and trying not cause any commotion. " I like your diplomacy". the truth is that it goes both ways.

Ohh!!! We not chasing love son, we chasing sex,accolades, respect from our peers and a story to tell our selves as part of our confidence boost. you chose with who you want to nature that love with "you said Wright the 1st time around. why did you take back? you are right" how else do you explain being broken hearted *huggg!!! sorgie, and disgusting*

just a few question thou
- "you complete me." Were you a fraction of a person before? what was it 1/2, 1/4,1/8 "fuck out here and be real".
- ohhh!! and how long is forever? a year, 2, 10 huh? do you realize that our forever differs, mine may be 50 years and yours 5 years?
and just by the way who made you a fortune teller? talk on days you know nothing about!! LIVE NOW you valentines day warped imbecile.

Son support V-day some one needs to feed their fam with the out comes.


IT'S ALL LOVE SON!!